sometimes napping is self-care. sometimes staying up all night is self-care. sometimes writing love poems to your body is self-care. sometimes shaving your hair and tearing up your clothes and painting on your face until you look like a stranger is self-care. sometimes bringing new people into your life is self-care. sometimes being alone is self-care. sometimes fresh greens and garlic are self-care. sometimes grease and fat and protein are self-care. sometimes making things is self-care. sometimes making nothing is self-care.
what you need is what you need, is I guess what I’m saying
that while I think dehumanizing people based on physical characteristics is always a problem, including if that characteristic is red hair
I also think comparing stereotypes about scots to stereotypes about people of color and stating that wearing a red wig to look like your favorite pixar character is like wearing “a fat suit for your head” is frickin ridiculous
If you're a feminist who understands the (apparently not) radical concept that women can have penises and men can have vaginas (and that there are people with either or both of those who may very well identify as neither a man nor a woman), would you mind reblogging this? I could really use a little faith in humanity being restored right about now.
Can we talk about how “I’m sorry things got so messed up between us” is the worst apology ever? Like, hooray I’m glad he tried, and I’m glad Asami only begrudgingly accepted because she is pure class, and now she’s free to date Bolin in Book 2 because yes after that finale I ship that shit. But "I’m sorry things got so messed up between us" is a complete disowning of responsibility in such a one-sided relationship. I would be satisfied with something as vague enough as “I’m sorry I was never a very good boyfriend”, because goddamn you are dumping the most perfect woman alive for the 3rd most perfect woman alive (Korra’s after Lin Bei Fong), can you have the gratitude to at least pretend you know what you did and you’re going to try harder this time?
Wow so I just watched the video in which Cathy Brennan claims she was “assaulted” at nyc dykemarch. I just wanted to write about it because I know I usually don’t have the stomach to watch that kind of thing and would want the option of reading more instead. Don’t worry about this incident damaging trans activists or anything: it can’t be overstated how gently and politely the trans woman who tried to speak to her acted and how rude and loud Brennan was. It is so clear which person is trying to engage and which person is trying to shut the other one down. At one point she reaches out and touches the trans woman and tries to get her name at which point instead of freaking out and screaming as I certainly feel she’d be entitled to, she tells Brennan she will “not be going on your hit list”, turns away and keeps her composure. A cis friend intervenes insisting that the trans woman be allowed to speak and the video ends with Brennan moving forward and screaming that she’s “not cis”, presumably because she’s a normal woman because LOL how the fuck does call herself a radical and live with herself
I used to enjoy a good mockery of Ayn Rand as much as the next person, but now thinking about her just makes me sad. I read that she fell into deep depression for part of her life and would chastise herself about it.
so I overheard a bunch of nerds talking about Legend of Korra in a restaurant the other day, while with a friend with whom I was just talking about it, so we had fun eavesdropping
and mostly I agreed (Mako is the worst, what is character development) but one person made the point that Lin Bei Fong is poorly characterized? “She’s a bad ass but that’s all we know about her so why should we care”?
And… I… she’s the best… what… it’s because she’s a lady, isn’t it
“My mom says that a prison is no place for survivors… It seems as though the people who put you there, never considered that an abusive relationship is a prison in itself. And sometimes, people even mistake the bars for love.”—
I wrote Marissa Alexander a letter tonight and it almost made me cry.
“If a state institutes a policy of banning body modifications (generally piercings) in schools, they leave “young modders” with an unpleasant choice: cease to exist as modified people, or be expelled from the school system to fend in the world without an education. To take away someone’s basic right to an education over a piercing or tattoo makes a powerful statement: the government viewpoint is that we do not in fact own our bodies or have authority over them, and that the government holds the sole rights to dictate what happens to your body.”—Shannon Larratt
I have ten days to clear out, so if anyone in Ontario wants me as a roommate either temporary (probably just southern Ontario for this bc convenience) or more permanently (ANYWHERE, but Ontario is best bc I can still have…
I was just in NYC for a little while and spent Tuesday in the Lower East Side. I found Bluestockings and absolutely freaked out because I live in GA and I didn't know Bluestockings was real. I only knew about it from Riot Nrrd. I mean, I figured it was based on a real place but I didn't think the name was real and everything. Oh man, it was so exciting. My travel partner didn't quite get why I was so excited. I explained to them, duh, Riot Nrrd! Everything you could ever want in a webcomic.
Cool! I’ve actually never been to Bluestockings myself, and I didn’t know it was a real place until I picked the name for Riot Nrrd. I remembered hearing the term as a disparaging name for bookish women and spent a long time googling “nerd book women negative” and similar stuff, thinking I was going to be super original, but of course googling eventually lead me to the real place. I hear it is awesome! And I’m glad you found it and thanks for spreading word of Riot Nrrd!
The only feminist/queer bookstore I’ve really known and loved is Food for Thought, in Western Massachusetts. If anyone lives around there you should support them because GREAT: www.foodforthoughtbooks.com
Tumblr is unfollowing people randomly today, so if I previously followed you and I suddenly unfollowed, please let me know. I’m not unfollowing anyone myself today (in fact, I do it extremely rarely), so I’d appreciate the heads up so I can refollow!
I am definitely following like four less people than I was yesterday >:| Let me know!
So today I read a coloring book about Brave to see if it was full of badassery, you know, maybe buy it for my niece. And it was the plot of the whole movie. Is that normal? Like… I was looking forward to really generic “redheaded Brave girl on a horse”, “Brave girl and her dad and SWORDS!”, “puzzle featuring runes or something”, but it was like “exposition, rising action, twist, rising action, heartbreaking Pixar moment, climax, resolution, denouement”.
And, I mean, it looks like a good movie, but uh, spoiler alert, coloring book