this time is not the same as last time or the next time. because you did it different last time doesn’t mean you did it better or worse this time. feel me
sometimes napping is self-care. sometimes staying up all night is self-care. sometimes writing love poems to your body is self-care. sometimes shaving your hair and tearing up your clothes and painting on your face until you look like a stranger is self-care. sometimes bringing new people into your life is self-care. sometimes being alone is self-care. sometimes fresh greens and garlic are self-care. sometimes grease and fat and protein are self-care. sometimes making things is self-care. sometimes making nothing is self-care.
what you need is what you need, is I guess what I’m saying
uh oh I tried it again and now he’s on to us
ok the internet probably needs to go off
…SURE! I’ll take it! XD
I.. just started watching this (haven’t played the game yet tho)
oh my god
so I just want to make it clear
that while I think dehumanizing people based on physical characteristics is always a problem, including if that characteristic is red hair
I also think comparing stereotypes about scots to stereotypes about people of color and stating that wearing a red wig to look like your favorite pixar character is like wearing “a fat suit for your head” is frickin ridiculous
I turned off my internet at the cafe today and got over 1,300 words written
more than twice what I normally get done
WHO would have GUESSED
Can we talk about how “I’m sorry things got so messed up between us” is the worst apology ever? Like, hooray I’m glad he tried, and I’m glad Asami only begrudgingly accepted because she is pure class, and now she’s free to date Bolin in Book 2 because yes after that finale I ship that shit.
But “I’m sorry things got so messed up between us” is a complete disowning of responsibility in such a one-sided relationship. I would be satisfied with something as vague enough as “I’m sorry I was never a very good boyfriend”, because goddamn you are dumping the most perfect woman alive for the 3rd most perfect woman alive (Korra’s after Lin Bei Fong), can you have the gratitude to at least pretend you know what you did and you’re going to try harder this time?
any suggestions on where to find super femme, body positive, sex positive, slutty perfect pins/patches/accessories? ESPECIALLY if there’s anything by q&tpoc!
signal boost and also curious!
[talking about transmisogyny & bug brennan below]
Wow so I just watched the video in which Cathy Brennan claims she was “assaulted” at nyc dykemarch. I just wanted to write about it because I know I usually don’t have the stomach to watch that kind of thing and would want the option of reading more instead. Don’t worry about this incident damaging trans activists or anything: it can’t be overstated how gently and politely the trans woman who tried to speak to her acted and how rude and loud Brennan was. It is so clear which person is trying to engage and which person is trying to shut the other one down. At one point she reaches out and touches the trans woman and tries to get her name at which point instead of freaking out and screaming as I certainly feel she’d be entitled to, she tells Brennan she will “not be going on your hit list”, turns away and keeps her composure. A cis friend intervenes insisting that the trans woman be allowed to speak and the video ends with Brennan moving forward and screaming that she’s “not cis”, presumably because she’s a normal woman because LOL how the fuck does call herself a radical and live with herself
wow mako have you ever even HEARD of personal space
do you think the word “alone” means “with only mako”
someone should outlaw your boundary-bending
when your vitriolic hatred of queer people is forcing you to swear off Oreo cookies, could it be more clear that you already lost?
[depression/guilt/destructive internalized bullshit ahoy]
I used to enjoy a good mockery of Ayn Rand as much as the next person, but now thinking about her just makes me sad. I read that she fell into deep depression for part of her life and would chastise herself about it.
Specifically saying: “John Galt wouldn’t feel this”.
And that is some of the saddest shit I ever heard.
so I overheard a bunch of nerds talking about Legend of Korra in a restaurant the other day, while with a friend with whom I was just talking about it, so we had fun eavesdropping
and mostly I agreed (Mako is the worst, what is character development) but one person made the point that Lin Bei Fong is poorly characterized? “She’s a bad ass but that’s all we know about her so why should we care”?
And… I… she’s the best… what… it’s because she’s a lady, isn’t it
I wrote Marissa Alexander a letter tonight and it almost made me cry.
You can write to her at:
Marissa Alexander DC# J46944
11120 NW Gainesville Rd
Ocala, Fl 34482-1479
so I’ve been listening to Rookie Magazine playlists today because they’re great
and on the Abed one they have Somewhere Out There and I definitely started crying during like, the first few notes
man today I am in a coffeeshop writing and exchanging emails with my *editors* so that’s weird and great
a Person from my Past stopped by, I tried hard not be too successful and content in his face but I think I failed
Cool! I’ve actually never been to Bluestockings myself, and I didn’t know it was a real place until I picked the name for Riot Nrrd. I remembered hearing the term as a disparaging name for bookish women and spent a long time googling “nerd book women negative” and similar stuff, thinking I was going to be super original, but of course googling eventually lead me to the real place. I hear it is awesome! And I’m glad you found it and thanks for spreading word of Riot Nrrd!
The only feminist/queer bookstore I’ve really known and loved is Food for Thought, in Western Massachusetts. If anyone lives around there you should support them because GREAT: www.foodforthoughtbooks.com
goodnight tumblr, be kind to yourselves
Tumblr is unfollowing people randomly today, so if I previously followed you and I suddenly unfollowed, please let me know. I’m not unfollowing anyone myself today (in fact, I do it extremely rarely), so I’d appreciate the heads up so I can refollow!
I am definitely following like four less people than I was yesterday >:|
Let me know!
So today I read a coloring book about Brave to see if it was full of badassery, you know, maybe buy it for my niece. And it was the plot of the whole movie. Is that normal? Like… I was looking forward to really generic “redheaded Brave girl on a horse”, “Brave girl and her dad and SWORDS!”, “puzzle featuring runes or something”, but it was like “exposition, rising action, twist, rising action, heartbreaking Pixar moment, climax, resolution, denouement”.
And, I mean, it looks like a good movie, but uh, spoiler alert, coloring book
THE CYCLE CONTINUES